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15 Lessons Learned from Multiple Miscarriages

October 15th was National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day. It was also the day I lost my first baby to miscarriage a few years ago. Since then, I have lost three additional babies to miscarriage. I have become, by default (and most definitely not by my choosing), a miscarriage expert. Here are a few of the lessons I have learned. Lessons Learned from Miscarriage – 3 Years Later: 1. Children are a blessing. If I had known when I was pregnant the first time that he would be my only surviving biological child, I would have treasured each kick so much …

Miscarriage Moments –

Like becoming a widow, losing a job you love, or countless other heartaches, having a miscarriage grants you instant admission into a secret club. It is a club, of course, that no one wants to join and it’s one with a lifetime membership. I never expected to be in it. (Letting His Hands Mend My Heart). I was already in the club of secondary infertility. A strange place to be when I had two kids more than seven years apart and another through fertility treatments. I had dreams of four kids, homemade casseroles, and being barefooted all day long. We went through …

5 Ways to Support the Grieving

October 15th is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. Men and women all over the world light candles at 7 PM in memory of the babies they have lost to miscarriage, still birth, or infant death. In light of this special day’s approach next week, I wanted to share with you five ways to encourage someone who is grieving. Because my husband and I have lost four babies to miscarriage, people often come to me after a friend loses a baby and ask, “How can I help?” They want to do something, but don’t know what would be most helpful. …

Gift of Grace

Nine years ago marks one of the most difficult, yet most important Christmases in my life. It would become a Christmas that would change my life and how I celebrate the birth of Jesus. In October, we had found out we were having another baby. This baby would be our ninth child and we were just as excited as if it were our first. However, our excitement changed to sorrow when we found out two months later we would never see this baby come full term. We later found out I had a virus that attacked my sweet baby and …

Forbidden Grief

My children, husband and I were eager to share our lives with another brother or sister during my third pregnancy. Then without warning, our eagerness turned to devastation. Our twenty-week sonogram showed that my unborn son had Trisomy 18. We were told by all the professionals that the best thing we could do would be to terminate our pregnancy. That is when the pressure to abort began. The doctor visits and phone calls to my home were constantly persuading me to end my pregnancy. Well meaning family members also assured me to listen to the doctors. The pressure was …

When You Struggle With Infertility and Loss

A Post From My Blog Last Fall *I was going in for a routine ultrasound, only to learn the unexpected, my baby had died during the week. No heartbeat. “My prayer this morning as I waited for the doctor, was somehow, there would be a heartbeat. I requested she try again for my sake and sadly as I knew, there was none. Even though I didn’t hear one, I was comforted as I laid my heart in God’s hands. Fresh tears well up with each passing moment as I continue to grieve the loss of my child. I grieve the dreams that were attached …