Mom Doubt. God, What Were You Thinking?

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“God what were you thinking when you gave me this kid?”

“God what were you thinking when you gave me this kid?” @loriwildenberg @themominitiativ

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Have you ever asked The Lord a question like this? I know I have.

Do you doubt you’re equipped or qualified to be the mom to you kids?  

I question my position when I’m:

  • Navigating issues— issues I don’t have a good handle on.  
  • Being exposed to interests and hobbies I am not naturally drawn to.
  • Experiencing frustration with a personality so different from my own. 

Yet, even in the midst of doubt, I don’t doubt that God is the perfect designer. He has perfectly designed me to be the mom of my kids ( through adoption and the old fashioned way). 

The truth is… God uses the raw material of our personalities, individual passions, and parenting styles to build our families.
 
Personality types, passions, and parenting approaches often differ in moms and dads. Although Tom and I  hold the same faith, morals, and values we are very different in terms of the way we live them out. The unexpected is always a mixed bag of experiences — challenges and celebrations.

In the midst of all the differences, God’s design is intentional. 

  • Personalities within families are varied. I work with lots of parents and I have observed  if one parent is an extrovert  (energized by being with people) the other is often an introvert (energized by being alone).  
  • Passions or interests are often different. They bring a variety of experiences into the family. God uses our unique gifts and talents.
  • Parenting styles tend to fall on opposite ends of the scale. If one is more relational, the other may be more rules and structure focused. Both important. Both valuable. Yet taken to the extreme, not good. God brings balance into the family. 
  • People are placed in our lives to lives to help us grow. Sometimes that person is our spouse. Other times, a mentor or a peer. A mentor provides perspective. Peers impart empathy and compassion. 
 
The best place to be is on our knees with our hands folded in prayer when we are uncertain of our mom role. Even though we are perfectly designed to be the mom in our family, we are not perfect. It is through that imperfection our perfect heavenly Father meets us, molds us, and guides us as his child to be the parent he designed us to be.
 
 
And that is God’s intentional and very intelligent design. 
 Those who remain in me, and I in them, will produce much fruit.

For apart from me you can do nothing.

John 15:5

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Mom of 4 (plus one daughter in love), licensed parent-family educator, co-founder of 1 Corinthians 13 Parenting, co-author of 3 parenting books.  Lori is currently scheduling for the 2016-17 school year. She would love to come and speak at your next event or lead a parent workshop or seminar. Click here for more information. 

If you are looking to find a mentor or be one, get a copy of one my newly published books and study guides to help direct the mentoring meeting. Raising Little Kids with Big Love or Raising Big Kids with  Supernatural Love (Wildenberg & Danielson) are both written to be used not only as an individual but can be even more powerfully used in community (with peers or a mentor)  or with your spouse.

 

 

 
 
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