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Grace.

We’re all familiar with this word, aren’t we? As Christian women, we’re fully aware of the pardon we receive thanks to the sacrifice of Christ Jesus and His efforts on the Cross. We recognize the magnitude of such a gift…and what it means to us eternally. However, receiving grace is one thing. Giving it? That’s a whole other story. Especially when it comes to being a mom…especially when it comes to raising our kids.

See, as a mother, I have the opportunity to extend grace multiple times a day. Like when my sweet son writes all over the television with permanent marker, or when my daughter borrows my favorite piece of jewelry (without asking) only to lose it at school. Day after day, these moments arise. Moments that are frustrating…situations that can’t help but to fuel our anger. And it’s in these times I speak of where the last thing we want to do is shed some grace on thee. Amen? 

I’ll be honest in saying that giving grace is an area I struggle with? It’s the area where I struggle most as a mom. I hate admitting that, but it’s true. So often I erupt into anger over the poor choices my kiddos make. I get caught up in the frustration of those situations. Every. Single. Time. But you know what I’ve realized, friends? If we’re more than willing to accept the grace given to us for our mistakes, sins, and transgressions, then we ought to be ready to grant some of it in return. Especially when it comes to our kids.

So, how do we do it?

Grace is unmerited favor. It’s not about causing guilt or shame either.  Instead, it’s replacing harsh words and consequences with an act of love. It’s letting our kiddos know that despite their antics, their poor behavior, and yes, even their blunders, they will be pardoned. It’s making the decision not to react negatively, and it’s choosing to forgive.

I’ll admit, it’s pretty hard at times to bite this tongue of mine. Especially when the sitcom I’m watching can no longer be seen correctly due to the drawn-in mustaches all over my television screen. Or when I want to wear my favorite ring, only to then realize it’s no longer there. But we must remember: God gives us grace over and over (and over) again. The same kind of love He shows us is the same type of adoration we need to demonstrate to our children. Unconditional love is what they must see…and feel.  

Getting grace is pretty amazing, but giving it? Even better.

Tell me, do you struggle with grace in your parenting, too? 

Jenny Lee Sulpizio is a Christian mom, wife, and author of the recently released, For the Love of God: A Woman’s Guide to Finding Faith and Getting Grace. She and her husband Michael reside in the uber warm state of Arizona with their three children. Connect with Jenny online by visiting her website: www.jennyleesulpizio.com

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