How to Cast Visions with and for Your Kids

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It hit me when she turned nine. 

I am halfway done with her….

I don’t mean I won’t be part of her life any more, but I won’t be the main influence. She will be out on her own, making her own decisions…AND it freaked me out. 

I haven’t done enough, taught her enough, loved her enough…

Now let’s be real. Some of you moms are great at seeing your kids’ future selves. Somehow you synthesize what you know about them and their personality and you have a vision of who they will be. 

I don’t. My kids are mysteries to me. Part of me doesn’t want to dream for my kids. I don’t want them to feel pressured into being something I think they should be or do. But there is something that changes when I talk to my kids about the future.

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So I have started vision casting with all my kids. Not the straightjacket kind of vision casting where my kids don’t have an opportunity to make their own choices or follow their own dreams. Instead it is a vision that gives them permission to try, get tripped up, and then stand back up and try again.

I say things like, “I want you to love to learn because all your life there will be new things to learn. Proverbs 12:1 says, “Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but whoever hates correction is stupid.” You will be corrected all of your life, by teachers, employers, friends, or even a spouse if you get married. So you need to love to learn and learn to love correction.” 

Other times I say, “I can see you as you grow-up being a leader because you think so creatively and you have a good foundation in understanding how to make wise choices.”

“O, your strong will is something that will serve you as you face trials and temptations, but right now you need to obey me.”

I have even told them, “You only fail when you don’t try. When you don’t succeed, it is an opportunity to learn – a chance to get up and try again.”

I also encourage each of my children that anything they feel God is calling them to do, they can do with His help. 

Then I ask them, “What do you want to do when you grow-up?” or “What do you want our family to be like when you are 18?” or even “What are your goals, hopes, or dreams for the future?”

A goal, a vision, a dream can help both you and your children have a direction to work towards. After all we are all going somewhere. The question is are we going somewhere on purpose?

What are you doing to help your children set and attain goals or cast a vision or dream for their lives?

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Get ready for NEXT WEEK… It’s MOM Week at The M.O.M. Initiative and we’ve got some great things in store for you!

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Stephanie Shott
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