Are You a Lonely Housewife?

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“Marriages in this field rarely make it.  The long hours and endless stress are known to chew families to pieces.”

 

I didn’t need to hear this man’s thoughts about my husband’s demanding job. Daily…hour by hour… week by week…year by year…I’m living it.

So many wives understand the drowning whirlpool of long hours spent with unending home demands while their husbands faithfully navigate upstream to provide for their family. Dreams of romantic hours with our husbands are often replaced by disappointment found in long lonely days. 

Do your dreams and expectations feel defeated due to the demands of life?  Today my husband and I want to encourage you to know you are not alone.  We are here to encourage you.  

When despair hits and stress mounts, Dave and I remind each other we are a T.E.A.M.  Sometimes, truth be told, the reminder comes through gritted teeth and tears…  But, whatever your circumstance, we challenge you to look at your unique situation though the lens of this acronym: 

  • T—Team.  God didn’t put my husband and I together by mistake.  We are to be a team, “by being of the same mind, maintain the same love, united in spirit, intent on one purpose” (Philippians 2:2 NASB).  Despite each day’s trials, we are to love each other and teach our children to love the Lord with all their heart, soul and minds. 
  • E—Expectations.  Are my expectations of my life realistic?   My best friend constantly reminds me of the phrase, “Unrealistic expectations are premeditated resentments”.  My unrealistic expectations make me resent my husband, my marriage, his job, and life in general.  These thoughts make each day longer and more miserable.  Expect that life is hard and tackle the challenge as a team.
  • A— Attack and conquer the problem, not each other.  Know the true enemy. The problem is not your husband who is trying to faithfully provide.  As a team pray for wisdom and study God’s word for His will for your family.  “He who gives attention to the Word will find good, and blessed is he who trusts in the Lord” (Proverbs 16:20).
  • M—Meaningful friendships.  Do you invest in friendships? If not, it is time to get connected with other godly gals.  Spending part of your long day united with other women is beneficial for your husband as well as yourself.  The more time we invest in others, the more we find we are not alone.  Also, be careful to only allow friends in your life who will encourage your marriage, not tear it down.   “…I do not regard myself as having laid hold of it yet; but one thing I do:  forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 3:14).
 
Teammates encourage one another to win the race! Today, stop and look for a way to show your husband how thankful you are for his hard work!  Drop by with his favorite drink or card of appreciation!
 
 
Mom, do you struggle with this? How can your marriage become more of a T.E.A.M today?

Praising Him through my pen, Tara Dovenbarger

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