5 B’s for Being the “Bad Guy” Moms Sometimes Need to Be

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A few weeks ago I posted 5 B’s to a Better Day. Today? 5 B’s for the “Being the Bad Guy” moms need to BE!

BE the ONE TO SAY “NO” to UNWHOLESOME TV

I remember well when at a gathering, all the kids were going to watch a movie. However, when my husband and I found out the movie that had been turned on, we told our kids, NO. Their same aged friends stayed “tuned in.” We were the “bad guys.” Some adults thought we were silly. We’ve never been sorry for being the “bad guy” and saying NO to shows that are sexual, have bad language, are dark, violent, or tamper with the occult or vampires. Be the “bad guy.” Say no and offer alternatives.

BE the ONE to MONITOR VIDEO GAMES

Gaming

It takes time. It’s trouble. Your kids won’t like you peering over their shoulder. But be the “bad guy.” Rather than fear your children’s wrath, whining, or complaining, FEAR GOD.  Compulsive video gaming has been proven to be more detrimental than good for children of any age.  When news was released that Aaron Alexis murdered 12 people at Washington Navy Yard on September 16, reports suggested that he played up to 16 hours of violent video games at a time. “Oh, I would never let my child do that,” we say. However, it doesn’t take 16 hours a day to desensitize children to violence. And, it is well known that violent video games increase aggressive thoughts, angry feelings, physiological arousal, and aggressive behavior in the gamer. In addition, they decrease empathy for others.  Mom, why in the world would we want our children to play even 1 violent video game? 

Many times, moms simply don’t know what is on the screen. If you fall in that category, check out the following; which the website askmen reports. 

“The violence in Carmageddon comes from the sheer ability to run people down in the most imaginatively brutal ways with a multi-purposed road hog; ramming pedestrians into steaming piles of bloody flesh. 

Soldier of Fortune lets you torture and brutalize enemies at your most sadistic desires. It’s the sick little pleasures of blowing off enemy limbs with a shotgun and watching blood spray and guts spill that make this game one of the most truly violent titles of all time.

Slicing a foe with a chainsaw from the groin upward is gruesome enough; however, getting to use a corpse as a human shield when taking fire takes the cake. 

MadWorld 2009. What’s black and white and red all over? Your victims as they’re splattered against the wall after being skewered on a lamppost. Or perhaps the answer could include disposing of your enemies in a meat grinder, or playing darts using only your opponents and a baseball bat.” 

Sorry, moms. I know that was gory, but they’re “games” being sold and “played.”

BE AN EXAMPLE and MINDFUL of YOUR TV CHOICES

Don’t watch violent, dark, or evil shows. Be mindful of the volume of your television and what your children are hearing as they lie in their beds at night coming from your TV. Your favorite mystery may include a victim lying bloodied on the street from a shooting.  Is that the last image they have in their minds after kissing you or daddy goodnight?  

BE VOCAL

Tell  parents, extended family, and others with whom your children associate that you don’t allow games, TV shows, and movies that include violence, cussing, sex, or disrespectful behavior.  But be aware that they may not appreciate your concern. They might prefer to stick their heads in the sand.  Or, they may not want to tell their child “no” to a favorite game or show. However, what your kids do with others is as important as what they do at your home. Stick up for your God-given convictions. Keep your children’s minds as pure as possible.  

BE PRAYERFUL

We cannot reach into every home and turn off the T.V. or remove every violent video game. But we can pray that parents will be convicted about what their kids watch and the video games they play. Be the “bad guy” in Satan’s eyes. Let him know by your behavior that you are taking a stand for your children! You’re putting up a fight for the purity of their souls.

We are responsible for what goes into our children’s hearts and minds. 

 “Therefore, 

if anyone cleanses himself 

from these things, 

he will be a vessel for 

honor, 

sanctified, 

useful to the Master, 

prepared for every good work.” 

2 Timothy 2:21

Heavenly Father,  forgive us for allowing vileness in our homes and nation; for not wanting to be the “bad guy” and take a stand. Use us to encourage purity in our children and grandchildren. In Jesus’s name, Amen.

I’D LOVE SOME FEEDBACK.

HOW DO YOU MONITOR WHAT YOUR CHILD WATCHES ON TV

AND THE VIDEO GAMES THEY PLAY AT OTHER HOMES?

 

 

Stephanie Shott
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