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And now for another fun and quirky post by Stephanie Shott:
Yesterday, I shared five types of mentors that drive a mentee crazy, but the reverse can be just as true!
When a mentor/mentee relationship is not a match made in heaven, it can be exasperating for a mentor who spends time praying and preparing for a sweet mom just because she sincerely loves her and longs to help her in her journey.
Today, we’re going to share a few ways a mentee can drive a mentor crazy:
1. MISS “I’VE GOT THIS” ~ The mentee who doesn’t think she needs any help, doesn’t want to accept your help and is either too brave for her britches or not wise enough to know she really does need help.
She’s the young mom who is either trying to be all and do all and measure up to those Pinterest Perfect moms who don’t really exist, or the one who is oblivious to how important her role as a mother is and how much value there is in learning from those who have walked that road before.
She wants it to appear as if she has everything under control, but her heart is on overload and she doesn’t realize the road ahead is not going to get any easier.
You try to help her but she constantly says, “I’ve got this!” You don’t want to give up on her because you know she definitely doesn’t have it all together. You pray she realizes it soon.
2. UNRELIABLE LUCY ~ The mentee who is never on time, never prepared, and always has an excuse.
She’s the mom who doesn’t know how to handle life and so life handles her. She lacks motivation but uses a lack of discipline as her excuse. “I just can’t get there on time!” “I didn’t have time to read this week!” “I tried to work on the budget you were helping me with, but I just ran out of time!”
You try to just ignore her excuses and do what you can with the little time she gives you. She doesn’t value your time, your energy, your passion to help her or your prayers.
You see so much potential, but the sad thing is, she doesn’t. She won’t take charge or responsibility for her life and so she continues to drift.
Each week, you hope she makes some baby steps, but you see her slipping through your fingers and it breaks your heart.
3. OVER ZEALOUS ZELDA ~ The mentee who is over zealous and definitely over caffeinated. She is SO excited to see you and SO anxious to dive in that she makes you SO nervous it’s hard to think.
She’s the passionate people pleaser who wears you out just being around her. She’s as precious as she can be, but a bit needy, and she has a hard time staying still long enough to listen.
In fact, she reminds you of Tiger, from Whinnie the Pooh.
You LOVE her enthusiasm. She’s always on time – always prepared. You just aren’t quiet sure if she can calm down long enough to have a constructive conversation with her. When you try, she’s all over the place.
Never confident, always antsy and frequently eager, Over Zealous Zelda keeps you on the edge of your seat and makes you wonder if something you say is going to send her on a tangent.
She doesn’t really listen very well. She has a tendency to take what you say and somehow misinterpret it, then wonders why things didn’t work out.
You love mentoring her, but you don’t know if you can keep up her pace and you constantly wonder if what you share is bouncing off the walls in her head.
4. DAYDREAMER DEBBIE ~ The mentee that can’t seem to pay attention to any conversation you may try to have with her. It’s like you’re invisible. You’re talking, but nobody is home.
We all know people who may be present physically, but mentally, they have checked out. Sometimes they try to appear to be interested. Other times, they really don’t care if you know they’re not.
Their minds are always meandering and their hearts are far away.
She’s distant, detached and aloof.
She makes conversations awkward and walks in the room with a wall around her heart.
You want to continue to mentor her but you realize that she’s completely uninterested in having any type of relationship except the ones she deems valuable. You wish she knew how much you love her and want to share the load of mommy-hood with her, but she really doesn’t care.
5. MISS “BLESS ME IF YOU CAN!” ~ She has no intentions of listening to anything you say and honestly thinks you have nothing to offer.
She thinks you are wasting her time and she is only there because she feels like she has to be. Her church has a mentor ministry and she wants to look good, so she signs up with no intention of really growing in a relationship with an older mom.
She thinks she knows everything and you couldn’t possibly relate to where she is and what she is going through. And you certainly couldn’t give her help or encouragement. You’re too old.
She constantly checks her phone while you’re talking and even stops you mid-sentence to text message a friend.
You long to have a relationship with her, but she’s really completely uninterested. You know her strong personality can be something to help her through life, but you also know it might just be her downfall.
So, there you have it. Five types of mentees that drive mentors crazy.
We all know that there is such beauty in mentor/mentee relationship! It’s beautiful because it’s what God has called us to.
Sometimes it comes naturally…often unintentionally. But other times it must be intentionally if it is to be, at all.
It’s not easy. It’s seldom convenient and it’s often challenging. But mentoring a mom will not only make a difference in her life, it will impact her children as well.
A mentor and a mentee who respect one another and who enter into a relationship with sincerity…well, that really is a life-altering and beautiful thing!
How about you? Have you ever been one of these types of mentees? Have you ever tried to mentor a mentee that was like one of the five types of mentees listed above? Share your mentee nightmare?
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